Friday, August 12, 2011

Another dating update

So I have been dating someone for over a month and it's going pretty well. We have gone out quite a bit actually, maybe 10 times. We have gone out to dinners, gone hiking, done some sightseeing to pretty scenic areas like local waterfalls and mountains, cooked dinner and grilled outside, played the Guitar Hero video game, fun stuff. We're not soul mates but we get along.

We are also attracted to each other which is obviously a good thing! He is cute so it definitely helps my self-esteem a little. And being smaller does make me feel more confident in certain areas if you know what I mean! I don't feel totally hot and attractive, especially when the clothes come off, but I don't feel fat and ugly like I used to.

This might be too much information, but sex was so horrible before I lost weight. Most of the time, I would just be so self-conscious that I couldn't enjoy anything. So it is this awesome new feeling to feel attractive now. I know it's not all pretty and I'm still overweight, but it's much better now. And it doesn't hold me back now, which I think is the biggest thing.

Anyway, I don't think I see this relationship being long-term. He's a few years older than me and has been married before. He got married really young and I think the divorce kind of turned him off from commitment. He told me that he hasn't mentioned me to his family because he never tells them about girls he is dating because then they start wanting details and talking about marriage to him. Also he seems to not want me to get too attached or have that "what are we?" talk. And for now, I am ok with that. I am still getting settled in here and am not that into having a boyfriend (altho I would be for the right guy). But we go out and do fun things, so it's ok for now.

If I were serious about finding a boyfriend, I wouldn't keep someone I knew didn't have long-term potential. But maybe right now I like having at least one person I know in this town other than my family...

What's your opinion? Any similar experiences? I love me some dating talk!


Miss S. said...

Oy-I am so far removed from dating. Like 14 years, but I will say from watching friends you seem on track with just enjoying each other. And his honestly seems refreshing.

Sex is definitely better smaller. I mean it's good now-but you move a bit easier with less LBS. lol

Dawn said..., me and dating go back a very long long way and thats not in a good way. Before my ex the last person I "dated" was a nice guy called Richard and it lasted 3 months before fizzling out in 1983. I was with my ex from 1983 until 6 years ago.
Maybe one day

Mer and Mo said...

LOL to the comment from Miss S. Still laughing. Dating - well, I was overjoyed to read this post from you. I am so in the mood to have a going out date. Glad that you are enjoying the time you have with this new "boy". I feel that is what dating is all about. It should not be a huge committment thing from the start. So glad you are able to go out and have fun, get to know a person. Plus, from what I am gathering he is introducing you to some of your new surroundings!! Good for you for getting out, having fun (in more ways then one - giggle) - enjoy it for the moment!!!!

Staying MOtivated MO

Diandra said...

Sounds like you're having a good time, and there's nothing wrong with that. ^^

The one and only time I was looking for a "have a great time without commitments" guy, I ended up with the BF, whom I've had for more than four years so far. ^^